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On Purpose: Creating A Life You Love
Well hellooo homeslice!
Here’s a little sneak peak exclusive excerpt from the book “On Purpose” that i’m creating for you.
This is one of the first things i wrote a couple of months back. Brace ya’self baby:
In my experience, it’s way better to consciously CREATE a life you love than it is to merely make the best of one that you don’t.
Successful people don’t fall victim to the “making the best” mistake. They don’t use it as a continuous copout for not living their life on purpose. It’s a useful concept but they don’t over apply it, in-turn making it a permanent crutch.
There’s something admirable in one who optimistically makes the best outta’ their situation. But at SOME point… today… tomorrow… Martin Luther King Day… the next lunar eclipse… Jay-Z and Beyonce’s wedding anniversary… we’ve gotta’ get some perspective and step up to see what self-imposed limit we’ve set on ourselves.
One of the most powerful feelings in the world is to CREATE WHAT YOU WANT: in this case, A LIFE YOU LOVE!
I’ve found that the majority of unsuccessful people aren’t creators; they are “make-the-besters” – victims immobilized by their situations. The biggest thing stoping them from getting what they want is their story about why they can’t have it.
Gaining the momentum required to move outta’ that place of victim, and into a place of power, will require us to trust ourselves.
This TRUST IN YOURSELF will be the basis for the confidence that is going to propel you forward when you feel like falling back into bed.
We’re going to talk about how to develop the type of “Self-Knowledge” that Socrates said was the most essential element to living an optimal life.
And boy are we gonna’ need it, cuz yes, trusting yourself will FREAK people the fuck out– especially those closest to you.
They’ll give you all types of award winning reasons why what you’re doing is outrageously unacceptable. It’s nuclearly nuts. Behavior of such sorts is indicatively inherent only in an insane asylum admittee.
For trusting yourself… they’ll push you, pull you, trip you, and talk about you behind your back. But ultimately, ULIMATELY, they’ll learn to live with the new you, and if you smell good enough, they’ll even LOVE you too!
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21 Responses to On Purpose: Creating A Life You Love
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Hahaha. EXACTLY RITA!!! Congratz girl, that's huge!!!!! Keep me posted on your journey -=)
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Thanks for posting this. Whilst I agree about striving for your dreams and creating the life that you want I think that the only way that that can be done is by accepting and being happy with what you have, and then striving to make it better. In other words make the best of what you have, and then make it better. If you don't, then you become unhappy and frustrated, and that's not a good head-space to be in for creating your dreams.
Steve
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I think it is a complex issue….all my life I have followed my dream …no cushy job for this artist…lots of creative inspiration….and lots of DOUBT in myself.
Trust in my self has been a process. I seem to forge ahead optimistically and THEN realize OH SHIT what now? But these are the moments, as they say " when the going gets tough….the tough get going". To be honest there is often no turning back… so the tactic of taking a deep breath and just jumping in always seems to work. Is it the best way? I can't say….sometimes yes, sometimes no…but it does move me forward.
In the end I am learning for myself, that self trust comes in retrospect.
But what is really important… before I seem to gain self trust, is really tapping into SELF LOVE. Acknowledging my attemps at bravery gives me courage….and SELF RESPECT….and then I tap into SELF TRUST.
love and light to all….-
Lynne says:
Hey there Kathy, love your reply & just wanted to give you a positive stoke for it. I agree there are lots of times that we learn positives about ourself in retrospect – & that's not a bad thing, it's all part of the Baby Step process I reckon – so really healthy. Fabulous post thanks for sharing so openly. Bless you & All good things to you. x
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Lynn thanks so much for your kind words! Baby steps…this is what we do!
All the best to you!
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Love reading your writing Kathy. It sounds like you continually hitting those OH SHIT-BALL moments are signs of growth. I'd be skeptical to think any of us can really grow without them.
As a matter of fact, if i stop and really think about my life right now, i could come up with plenty of OH SHIT WTF AM I GONNA DO things. Overall, i don't dwell on them because i trust the process. If for some reason i start to get worried, i take an action/baby step and get back on my track.
Okay, before i go off the deep-end here, great stuff on love.
BEAR HUGS!
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Jacob….looking forward to your book! You always give me the opportunity to reflect on my path.
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Ahhhhh. Thanx Kathy!! Looking fwd to linking up in the future -=) Hope all is absolutely astronomical witcha!
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EmbraceTheJoy says:
Counting your blessings instead of your misfortunes…that helps. I am walking breathing smiling example of how having a positive outlook, being happy with what i have…and always believe there is something better to be had…However, I am surrounded by nay sayers…STILL. Although they seem to be falling by the wayside at a record rate…Mainly because, I just wont be around all the negativity anymore. I would rather be alone…and for that, I am outcast by some. Ok…that's fine.
I have a dream…lving on a ranch, on a hillside in California. I have envisioned it and even drawn pictures of it (very primitive drawings). Whenever I tell someone the first thing out of their mouth is how expensive it is to live out there…I just laugh. Then I say, well, that's where I'm headed….
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Very cool -=)
Had a huge grin on my face imagining those primitive drawings.
BTW, you are who i aspire to be:
"I am walking breathing smiling example of how having a positive outlook, being happy with what i have…and always believe there is something better to be had…"
Thank you!!!
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Hahah…the drawings. Proud and a bit embarassed all at the same time.
And thanks for the compliment…they don't get much higher than that!! However I do believe you have already achieved the goal of living a good life though positive outlook and honest faith! You just said it to Lynn…you "trust" the process…so you can't let things get you to worked up. Take action, just a simple step to move…
xoxo Jacob…you are certainly in my life at the right moment!!
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Damn…I meant the comment to Kathy! Ugh..
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Love this post Jacob, as I do all of the things you so generously share here with us. I agree that it's always going to be much more fulfilling to 'love the life you create yourself rather than the one you don't' – & I'm working on creating that life & the love for it each & every day, & some days are a little easier & some days are some what harder, but still & stay in Process & work on my commitments & my fundamentals because you know what – I'M TOO YOUNG TO LET LIFE GO BY WITHOUT MAKING IT THE KIND OF LIFE THAT I WANT – & I'M TOO OLD TO KEEP LIVING THE LIFE THAT DOESN'T MAKE ME HAPPY, SHINE & WANT MORE OF IT. So here I am, on my pathway, in my process, on my journey. Yeah! x
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Word up Lynne!! *Commitments and Fundamentals* … i am so bout it bout it indeed. Sounds like you've got one hell of a journey going on – congratulations!!! -=)
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gunja says:
wow! really loving all the chat up there :)
and Jacob… thanks so much for sharing the excerpt…
lots of best wishes for the book….and of course,do hope to see more such bits n pieces of it here…it was a real good read :) -
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Make-the-besters…I know lots of those people. This is great. I can hear your voice saying it. And when I tell people that I am leaving my cushy government job and now knowing what I'm going to do, they get concerned. They raise their eyebrows. They ask "What will you do?" with that tone of "oh my gosh how can you do that?" and yet I know that they secretly want to be doing the same thing. Life is too short for me not to be doing what I love. So…thank you for this reminder. You're awesome.