Big Idea #1: Care So Much That You Don’t Care At All

You have to care so much that you don’t care at all.

–Brian Johnson

What does this mean? When you care so incredibly much about something, then all the other things we would normally care about don’t seem to matter so much. We don’t worry about what other people thing, or about what might happen if things don’t work out, or all the other “what if’s” that plague our thoughts. We care so much about what we’re doing that things which previously worried us, simply fade away.

Look around at the people you admire, the people who are crushing it in life and that you look up to. They care so much about what they’re doing or what they stand for that they put everything they have into embodying that. They dedicate their life to their cause without worrying about what anyone else thinks.

What moves you the most? What is the most inspiring thing to you? What do you care about so much that you could dedicate your existence to embodying that idea? For what would you be willing to play full out and give yourself wholeheartedly to?

Most people think that what they seek is the meaning of life, but really what they seek is the experience of being alive.  — Joseph Campbell

Big Idea #2: Learning Not to Judge Our Emotions

It’s important to feel our emotions and not judge them or associate them with our self-worth. For example, just because we’re crying doesn’t mean we’re weak. We don’t need to place some label on ourselves based on how we’re feeling in the moment- feelings pass!

We need to disassociate how we’re feeling with how we’re judging our self-worth. If you feel great about yourself when you’re feeling good, and feel bad about yourself when you’re feeling down, this is a warning sign that you are probably tying your feelings to your self-worth!

There is one human freedom that can never be taken away: the last of the human freedoms. This freedom is: the ability to choose how you respond to a situation.

In between stimulus and response lies a space. In that space, lies your ability to choose. In your ability to choose how you respond, is your freedom. — Viktor Frankl

Let’s say you have an encounter with somebody who’s totally rude to you. You can choose to respond with anger, or you can take a moment and recognize that their rudeness says more about them than it does about you. You have the complete freedom to decide how you respond, and thus to completely change how you feel.

Big Idea #3: Finding Inner Security

It can feel really uncomfortable to be craving security and not know quite how to find it. When you look for security in the physical world (through a permanent location, earning a certain amount of money, etc.) then you feel anxious, scared, and never really all that secure. You’re looking for proof in the outer world that you’re okay, but the problem is that even finding this proof doesn’t really eliminate the fear.

Security actually comes from the inside, from knowledge of self and knowing that you can handle whatever happens. It comes from trusting and loving yourself, feeling connected to your deepest core and who you really are.

So how can you create this feeling of security? It starts with fundamental habits to bring you back to your basics and strengthen your knowledge of self. Journaling, meditation, exercise, daily gratitude… all of these things can help you slow down and remember that no matter what happens, you’ve got this. Security comes from treating yourself with love, practicing gratitude and staying present in life. And it comes from taking care of your basic needs like eating well, getting plenty of sleep and staying healthy in your physical, mental and emotional body.

When we judge ourselves, we’re not doing anyone any favors. In fact, judging ourselves actually can harm other people because we prevent ourselves from living at our best. So if you find yourself feeling insecure in life, let go of any judgments about it. Simply take the steps to regroup and find security in your inner self.

The better your relationship to uncertainty, the better you’re able to create what you want in your life. So how can we create certainty in uncertainty? Recognize that there is so much we can’t control in life… but what we can control is ourselves and our rituals, our values, habits and feelings – starting with our fundamentals.

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