Big Idea #1: What’s the Deal with Indecisiveness?

When you go out for lunch with a friend, are you the kind of person who really just doesn’t mind where you go? Your friends might call you indecisive, but maybe you feel like it’s most important that they’re happy so you prefer not to make choices that affect others.

Keep in mind that there’s a big difference between something that’s “not that bad” and something that’s GREAT! So when it comes to what you really want, what’s stopping you from expressing that? Sure, picking the restaurant isn’t a big deal- but there will come a time in life where you’ll need to step up and speak your truth.

Is there a deeper voice inside you that you’re afraid to let out, because you’re worried about bothering someone or not making them happy? Are you afraid of being perceived as selfish or inconsiderate, so you keep your true opinions and feelings to yourself?

So “indecisiveness” doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t know what you want. It might mean that you’re concerned with pleasing other people, so you silence your inner voice to keep the peace. Be faithful to yourself – and authentic with others – and you’ll find a lot more happiness in yourself and your relationships.

When we put someone else’s preferences ahead of ours, we often do that so that others will like us. But even if they do like us, or even love us, they’re not really loving our real self – they’re loving the persona that we put forward. But when you own your identity and put your real self out there into the world, other people can understand who you are and love you for who you really are.

Big Idea #2: Fear of Rejection

Alot of times we find ourselves feeling super concerned about what other people might be thinking about us, or what other people are doing and how that makes us feel. Have you ever been in a situation where someone acts out of alignment with your values, but you don’t say anything because you’re worried about what they think? Maybe you’re with a friend and they make a disrespectful comment to someone else, but you don’t bring it up because you fear rejection from them.

Try to be really conscious about what comes up for you when someone else does something that’s out of alignment with your values. Do you find yourself covering up your true feelings to avoid a problem? Or do you speak your truth no matter what?

Big Idea #3: Guilt Around Charging

Figuring out how much to charge clients is never an easy topic to navigate, especially with all the issues that many of us have grown up with around money and value. We often come to value ourselves less than we deserve, because we’re worried that people won’t pay what we really feel we deserve.

Remember that the most important factor isn’t whether you get a particular job or not. The most important factor is developing the ability to add real value to your clients so that guilt around charging isn’t even an issue.

Ask yourself, how can I astonish the people I am serving? Try under-promising, and then over-delivering. This way, you are sure to astonish them with what you provide.

What are 5 ways I can astonish my client with the amount of service that I can give them?

Instead of asking if something is right or wrong, ask yourself if it’s helpful right now.

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