Big Idea #1: You Don’t Always Have to Feel Great!

We live in a culture that seems to put this huge value on being happy all the time. You may have internalized the message that “if you’re not happy, there must be something wrong with you.” It becomes this self-perpetuating cycle where suddenly, if we’re not feeling happy, then we become unhappy about THAT!

But sometimes you’re just in a situation where you’re not feeling great. And more than that… it might not even be appropriate to feel great! If you’re dealing with the loss of a relationship, or another major life change…covering that up and trying to make yourself feel great isn’t going to help anything.

You don’t have to always feel like a million dollars. Just allow yourself to be yourself and experience whatever it is that you’re experiencing! Sitting with the feelings of discomfort, rather than reacting or covering them up, is the best way to ultimately process them.

Repression leads to depression! If you try to cover up your feelings, it’s ultimately going to be toxic. Just think about sweating during exercise! You definitely want to sweat and release your toxins when working out – and it’s the same thing with your emotions. You’ve gotta process them and purge them out in order to get healthy.

Big Idea #2: Is it Ever Okay to Outgrow a Relationship?

Did you ever get that feeling that you’re changing and growing in life, and that your current relationships are changing because of it? It can be really scary because we might feel like we’re leaving part of our old self and old relationships behind.

It can be really tempting to hold ourselves back so as not to lose what’s familiar. Because we don’t wanna lose the love in our life and the relationships that matter to us, we stop our growth so we don’t grow away from them.

But if we live a life where we’re restricting our own growth in order to have other people’s love, it’s going to be a miserable type of existence.

Putting your own growth first is the most important thing you can do. You don’t meet your soulmate by standing around and looking where you currently are. You meet your soulmate when you’re on the path of your purpose, and they’re on the path of their purpose. You’re both moving and growing and in alignment with your direction and purpose, and your paths cross. It’s really not possible to meet the right person for you if you’re growing and they aren’t, or visa versa.

Ultimately, if you’re not growing together, you’re growing apart.

Big Idea #3: Putting Your Purpose First

Sometimes when life’s getting busy with the thought of marriage and children, you might think that you need to put your other dreams on hold. Whether or not your partner expects this of you, it’s super important to get clear on what your values are and what it means to live and exemplify your own purpose and path.

The next step is, you’ve gotta be super clear with your partner about the fact that while you love them deeply, that you’re also committed to your purpose. Supporting yourself and doing meaningful work is non-negotiable. That being said, you can definitely have a fulfilling marriage and family while working on your purpose and dreams.

And keep in mind that when you put pressure on yourself to make everything work NOW, it doesn’t work as well.

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