Thanks so much for joining us in the Inner Circle this week! 🙂

Hop on over here to grab the MP3 of yesterday’s Inner Circle coaching call.

Next week’s IC call will be on Tuesday, December 29th at 5pm/EST. Mark it on your calendar as soul-time!

In the meantime, you can dig into the IC Archive here and stay connected with the whole crew in the FB group here!

Now, for this week’s big ideas…

Big Idea #1: Coaching Conversations

If you’re a coach – do you ever find yourself turning every conversation into a coaching conversation? How do you draw the line between coaching, friendship, dating, and all the different types of communication that happen in each of these relationships?

When in doubt, start with love. When you’re connecting with someone, and make the focus on love – you’ll be able to feel if it’s appropriate to go deeper and get curious, or give advice, or simply hold space and be there for that person. 

In order to help someone, it’s about first connecting with them where they are, and then showing them another way. It’s all great to show people what’s possible, but we have to first meet someone where they’re at! When we connect with empathy and really get what the other person is feeling, then we can hold the space for that emotion to be honored, seen and witnessed. Once that feeling is acknowledged, it can actually dissolve – and that’s the space where greater possibilities can be experienced. 

Big Idea #2: Getting Out of a Funk

Funks: we all get into them at one time or another? So what are some strategies for getting out of a funk and feeling good again?

Well first of all, we need to humanize the experience of being human. This means recognizing that being human means feeling the full spectrum of emotions, and allowing ourselves to be in that fully without repressing anything. When you’re feeling in a bit of a funk, first just recognize what’s happening and honor your humanity and all of the emotions it contains.

Moving through a funk means committing to the self-care practices that we KNOW are going to put us in a good place to show up in the world. And when we have other people counting on us in life to show up in a certain way, we have extra motivation to take care of ourselves so that we can serve them in the way that we need to. Think about it: if you have a family relying on you to show up, or clients to serve, then suddenly you are working for something bigger than yourself. Your self-care becomes about serving the people who need you, and in an amazing way, this can really help you move through some tough emotions. 

Big Idea #3: Blind Spots Around Finances

When finances are bad, how can we see the blind spots in that situation that might be keeping us stuck there?

First of all – look at the language you’re using to describe your situation. What could be another word to describe your state of finances, that’s not so negatively charged as “bad”? Maybe saying something like, “I don’t have as much money as I’d like to.”

So based on the situation, after replacing that negative charge with a more neutral statement, what is it that you’d love to create? What would you love to be different going forward?

Often we get into this feeling like “I should have more money than I have right now.” We make it mean something about us if we do or don’t have enough money. But let’s look at what money actually represents to us.

Money often represents things like safety, possibility, status, success…and the list goes on. So instead of saying money brings that thing, let’s bring it back to the present moment and see how we can create that feeling right now. How can I return to a feeling of safety or possibility in this moment right now?

Let’s connect!

What are your thoughts on the above? We’d love to hear ’em in our secret Facebook group.