No one likes a hypocrite… but today, I’m calling myself out on some BULLSHIT.

The reason is, there’s something I’ve been preaching but not practicing.

There’s an absolutely ridiculous yet crippling fear buried in the back of my brain – and it’s stopped me from being happier, more successful, and connected to more amazing peeps.

Pull up a chair and lean forward cuz in the next minute, I’m gonna show you this bastard fear, and you’ll realize that you too have this sucka lurking in the shadows of your skull.

With this new awareness, you can take new action. So let’s get into it…

A core principle that I teach to my tribe is:

The quickest way to get the life you want is to spend time with people who have it…

So if you wanna change your reality, change your relationships.

The reason is, when people spend time together, whoever’s reality is stronger will dominate and become the new reality.

There’s no trying to convince ourselves to change our beliefs.

No “positive thinking”… No secret manifesting… No faking it until you make it…

Your beliefs and actions start changing unconsciously… and automatically!

I’ve found this to be the ultimate way to transform your life.

(This is why these days, I’m doing less one-on-one coaching and instead creating groups of spiritual-gangsters who support each other in leveling-up their lives together – like our Bali retreats.)

But here’s my dirty little secret…

I don’t actually spend much time with people who are a couple steps ahead of me.

The reason isn’t because I don’t know where to find these people…

The reason isn’t because these people won’t spend time with me…

The reason isn’t because I have a ton of other things that are waaaay more important to do…

(We’ve already established that spending time with bad-ass homeys is a top priority.)

The real reason I don’t do this is that I’m scared.

That’s right!

Your boy Jacob Alan Sokol is skurrrrrred.

I’ve got an amazing network of people who I could reach out to – people who inspire the shit out of me – who are living in deep alignment with the things that matter most – people who are making a powerful impact on the world – people who are inspiring as fuck, who are motivated, who are deeply self aware – and who are just overall great people.

But I’m scared that if I spend time with these people…

They’ll start to realize that I’m actually not so special…

And despite all the cool things I’ve created in my life…

I’m actually boring, and not so smart, and don’t have anything interesting to say.

So because of this fear, I unconsciously created a rule in my brain that says:

“Don’t spend time with amazing people who you’d love to learn from… Because if you do, they’ll find out you’re not so amazing and won’t spend time with you.”

This ridiculous rule (or “limiting-belief”) leads me to only see them once a year, when in actuality, my soul would love to connect with them regularly.

When we inspect this insanity closely, we’ll notice that the underlying fears are actually twofold and universal (meaning everyone has them).

The first fear is: I AM NOT ENOUGH.

Every one of us has this… although the “enough” part changes for each person. Ex: I’m not funny enough… or smart enough… or beautiful enough… or charismatic enough…

The second fear is: I WON’T BE LOVED

If I’m not enough, then I’ll be unlovable. And won’t be accepted. And won’t belong. And since for tens of thousands of years, “belonging to a tribe” ensured that I got fed and was protected, not-belonging can feel like death.

I find that the best part of this twisted universal fear is that once you realize EVERYONE has their own version of it, you realize that you’re human.

And the way to experience your divinity is to fully embrace your humanity.

So that’s my commitment: to embrace the shit outta my humanity, let my heart drop a beat, and reach out to the amazing mentors and soul-siblings that I’d love to engage with.

How about you, homey? How have you stopped yourself from spending time with people who have the life you want? And what one action will you take right now to spend more time with ‘em?

Note: A more accurate title for this would have been “Why I Refuse to Spend Time With MORE Amazing People” because my life is already filled with extraordinary souls. #Respect!

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